In Search of: Hate for the Holidays


It has occurred to me the holidays are just around the corner. And I’ll begin this post by saying: I hate the holidays. Christmas, Thanksgiving, the whole dam package. I hate them. I have hated them for years. They have this ever so predictable way of making me feel…alone.

You see, I have a small family. And my family’s a bit disjointed. Or a lot. We don’t have big family gatherings. We really don’t have small family gatherings. Each individual family pretty much does its own thing. Which leaves me by myself. Yes, inevitably, someone invites me to their get together. I imagine this is because they all realize I’m the last one standing (and by that, I mean the only one without a family of my own), and they don’t want me rotting away in my house by myself. But in the end, all these holidays seem one big-ass reminder of this fact: I’m alone.

And that sort of depresses me. Every. Single. Year.

This year’s been a rough one in particular. In so many ways. Thus, I’m not looking forward to hearing everyone’s holiday plans. I’m not looking forward to the, “What are you doing for Christmas?” questions. I’m just not. I would like to post a sign on my shirt that says, “I really don’t know what I’m doing for the holidays, but please don’t look at me like that’s sad.” Because I’m already sad, and I don’t need your sympathy eyes heading my way.

So as I’ve been preparing to hate the holidays yet another year, it has occurred to me: what if I could do something to make these days just a wee bit better? If I could do whatever I wanted to for Christmas or Thanksgiving, what would that be? What the hell do other people do that have this problem?

Honestly, I don’t know what the solution is. But there’s got to be one, right? There’s got to be some way to make the holidays a bit more bearable. And, dare I say, maybe even fun??

So I’m brainstorming, and I’m asking for your help. I need ideas. I’m making lists over here. Thus far, my list is short, but I’ve got a few thoughts:

  1. Invite friends over for dinner on a non-holiday night, and make a big feast. Call it the un-Thanksgiving. Or something to that effect.
  2. Make super cute Thanksgiving cards to send out to my friends with awesome, heartfelt messages.
  3. Get back into making Christmas cards. I used to do them every year, and then one day I sort of stopped. (Granted, the reason for stopping had a lot to do with the fact that I love using photos on my card fronts — and it looks a little silly to have one person on the front of a Christmas card. If you have photo suggestions/ideas to solve this dilemma, do share!)

That’s all I’ve got. I told you it was a short list. So what do you think? Do you have ideas? Help me out here. I am determined to make this holiday season a bit better than most.

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